Haitian men with babymama

How much time do you keep your mouth shut to keep the peace? How many times do you need to be a bigger person? When do you finally stop wondering if your partner is still in love with the mother of his kids? The answer is as long as it takes to keep your man happy but sometimes enough is enough.
 Haitian men do not like drama and obsessing yourself over his ex is not helpful to your sanity or to your relationship. I know we as women wants to know the full truth but sometimes we cannot handle it? You might want to know the reason they broke up but what if your man was the one in the wrong. Moving on.
Most Haitian men takes pride on raising their children and they would not stop being in their lives just because you just came in the picture. Rather to make him choose on spending time between you and his kids, involve yourself even if he did not offer. But what if his ex is a territorial bitch that don't want you near her kids and can't let go of the fact the relationship is over and wants to make your life miserable, play the victim and use this as an opportunity to shine.
XoXO, sosso

Haitians commenting on people weight.... rude

I never remember how embarrassed I was when I asked a woman about her pregnancy and she wasn't even pregnant. Looking back at it, it was ignorant and I should've known better. Whether  ` someone is skinny or thick, overweight or under weight, gained weight, lost weight, just keep your comments to yourself.

Haitian men, y'all are too comfortable discussing women weight and turns around calling a girl getho for cursing you out. You complained when we are too skinny and also complained when we are too fat. I don't get it.

Haitian mothers, y'all feed us salty food and unhealthy pots of rice and rudely comments on our weight in front of everyone. Yall make the food and comments every time we get eat it. Y'all need to stop putting me on the spot at every family gathering.

Haitian dads- Enablers of our bad  food habits and tells us we did not gained weight, when you know we did. While some of y'all eat all the food in the house. I think some of you guys just want us to be malnourished because you are so overprotective and doesn't want any guys to look at us.

Haitian siblings- Make stupid jokes about weights that are not funny and never failed to bring it up during an argument.

Haitian church people- After not seeing me for months, the first thing you comment on is my weight. Looking at my skirt to see how tight it is and gossiping saying that I'm stressed out.
Life will be so much easier if you just keep your comments to yourself
XoXo, Sosso

Introducing a new section of my blog...

A Limena is a common Creole word. A Limena is a woman of style that is smart, well-spoken and very determined. A Limena doesn't settle and knows her worth. She has high standards and is shown by her success. If you would like to be a Limena in the month, email me.

Getting back to the old me. Healthy, Beautiful and Confident

My beauty used to reflect the way that I feel. I used to be very confident and very outgoing.  After ending a one year relationship, I am at the stage of putting all the pieces together. After giving someone my all for a year, there was not a lot left. My savings, my self-esteem, my heart was basically gone. What about me? I am now left in the dark, with empty promises and a happy ending that never happened. The person that I trusted the most that I gave up everything for basically left me hanging during the most important time of my life. I was forced to explain to my family and friends, Where was I for the past year? Why did I let that happen? Where is he now?

In my journey to love myself again, I had to admit to myself that I was a weak woman that let a guy take advantage of me. That will never happened again.
My beauty is starting to reflect the way that I am now happy, independent, and resilient, in love and the smile in my face everyday says it all.

I'm just this nice girl from Haiti

What To Pack For College

I just recently went away for college. I know how stressful this process can be. Do not bring clothes that doesn't fit anymore. They will become clutter and in college, space is limited. Bring things that you uesed the most and make sure your dorm room reflect your personality. Do not bring things that you know are going to distract you like a TV.
 Essential Items

• Mini-fridge- if your school allows it.
• Rapid-Ramen cooker and a hot water kettle
• Full length mirror
• Hangers
• Clean underwear-lots of it
• Area Rug
•  Wall art and poster
• Laundry bag
• Jewelry organizer
• Alarm clock even if you have a cell phone
• Small dry erase board to leave notes and to remember appointments
• Adhesive hooks and strips (that come off cleanly)
• Disinfecting wipes
• Bowls, spoons and forks
• Air freshener
• Bath towels
• Shower caddy
• Washcloths and slippers
• Paper towels
• Comforter sets

Toiletries

• Deodorant
• Hairspray
• Lip balm
• Lotion
• Mouthwash
• Nail polish
•  Nail polish remover
•  Shampoo
•  Blow dryer
•  Bobby pins
• Headbands
• Nail clipper
• Nail File
• Razor                                              

School supplies

• Paper clips
• Ruler
•  Calculator
• Folders
•  Scissors 
•  3 hole puncher
•  Stapler
• Tape
•  Pens, pencils
•  Sharpeners
• Notebooks
• Headphones, flash drive

SN: Don't worry about having all these things at once. The longer you're there, the more stuffs you will have.

XoXo Sosso                                                    

                                                                                            

Our City School District Needs To Do Better

   As a city school district graduate and freshman at a private liberal arts college, I have beat the odds. Unfortunately, a lot of other students are unable to do the same, and it's not because city school students are not smart enough but because the standards are placed so low on the students that they doesn't consider college as an option. We need a wholesale transformation of the public school system from the old, rusty model that has been installed 50 and 60 years ago. Our school district has has not yet faced the fact that no matter how good the curriculum is, there is nothing to do when education is not being valued. The Truancy rate for kindergarden is 20 percent. The school disctrict should be able to fulfill our educational needs that is going to prepare graduates for college level work.
   The first is teacher quality, such a controversial topic. We all know the positive effects that teachers have on student achievement. On my high school experience, teachers such as Mrs. Hoover, Mrs. Awopetu, Mrs. Gilmore, Mrs Nicholas and Mr. Ocran are some of the teachers that helped me get to where I am today.  Paper qualifications, such as teacher certifications have little to do with what makes a teacher effective. A teacher that is effective is always accessible, whether it is after school, or Saturday school. A great teacher is caring, passionate and respects their students. A great teacher sets high expectations for their high school students and believe in them.
  Instead of focusing on the real issues that the city schools are facing which are poor attendance and low graduation rates, school officials blame the teachers and assess their performance unfairly based on pre or post tests that does not have anything to do with what we learned all year. Never mind all the articles, and the different books we read, and hours spend preparing lessons, they are bad teachers just because I was bored the day of the post test and now their jobs are in jeopardy. There is no such thing as an hero teacher that come to save the public school system, that is unrealistic and unsustainable.
Suddenly being a public school teacher is a bad thing, the negative stigma attached to being a public school teacher overshadow their hard-work and their true intentions of making a difference. The graduation rates are not going to improve by blaming teachers for lack of effort from the students.